LOVE!

Mohabbat mein naheen hai farq jeene aur marne kaa,
Usee ko dekh kar jeete hain jis kaafir pe dam nikle.

That's what Mirza Galib has to say about Love.

What I have in store to say will be written soon.
Once one of my friend, who recently found his so called GF, said to me that why do people say they fall in love. I have risen in love. Exactly! I said. The way you have managed to manipulate to find your girlfriend whom you say is your love is the one you have risen for, not fallen into. Love can't be held, bought, manipulated, traded, forgotten, or stolen. Love is pure, honest, true, fulfilling, and most of all valuable. All these adjectives may seem old and usual, but true they are.

There are many different meanings for the word love and many people interpret it differently. In my life I have felt love in many aspects of my life. I love my family, my friends, my country, my life, and myself. These are all the things I hold dear to me in all the choices and plans I make. Trying to bring pleasure to someone, because of the pleasure you feel to see that person's pleasure
To be in love means to care about that person so deeply that your life would not be complete without them. This seems similar to very common dialogues from hindi movies - Mai tere liye jaan bhi de sakta hu. But it is not as common as it appears in Hindi films. Today I see many people around me saying they love such and such girl. And a more than ever complicated term mostly used is - girlfriend. Can anybody in this world define that word for me? I tried asking it one of my friend. But he coulnt't answer my reasonably and was himself confused.

The Karma Theory

I can see that the choices I make and the things that happen to me are related in some way or the other. What is that way? I don't know but the only possible answer that I've got is The Karma Theory. The karma Theory is derived from the Bhagvat Gita. I don't know How correct is it but one thing I know for sure that it can't be completely wrong. It seems that as life goes on the situations I experience are urging me to believe the theory.

Each is Great In Its Own Place

Everyone of us are here in this world to take the position in which we are at this current moment, and the next moment, and the one next to it, and the next,......... Everyone is made to live the life which he/she is living and each one is great in his own place. You are you because you can be none other than you.
A sanyasi and a householder are two extremely oppisite persons. But you cannot say that one is better than the other. How can you compare an oak tree with an apple tree? Similarly you cannot say that this guy is superior to the other. A criminal is a criminal because that is what for which he is made for. And a saint is a saint because of the same reason. Imagine all of us being saint. Then how would you have been able to identify a saint? This much reason and logic is sufficiennt for me to convince myself to strictly curb arrogance and any related word that may be found in a thesaurus from dictionary.com.

Practical Observations: Suppose I hate a person. Say, a girl named Rashie. She is composed of all the three three qualities which I hate the most viz. pretentiousness, arrogance and hypocrisy. But then I find out that instead of all these she is a girl full of confidence. She does whatever she does in an extremely confident way. But on the other hand I believe that confidence is an infinite thing. So I find this part of her character appriciable. Hence we deduce that the person consisting of most hate-able elements can be a thing of admiration to me. Like this you can never complain anyone for being him/her the one he/she is. He/she is like that because he/she was made by God to be that. One is great whatever one may be.
Extending this, we get many more results consistant with this theorem, say the theorem of equality. No not that. Theorem of appreciation. Using this theorem you can develop appreciation for anyone. There is a long list of persons. comming soon.

Quotes From "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari"

• Every event has a purpose and every setback is a lesson. Failure, whether of the personel, proffesional or even spiritual kind, is essential to personal expansion. (Pg. 16)

• Life is all about choices. Our destiny unfolds according to the choices one makes. (Pg. 18)

• Life came down to a few key moments. (Pg. 23)

• Twin disciplies of personal mastery and self-responsibility would keep from returning to the chaos of crisis. (Pg. 28)

• .....could do anything, be anything and unlock the infite potential that was inside everyone of us. .....start to cherish life and to see the divinity in every aspect of it.(Pg. 29)

• ...realize that mind management is the essence of life management. (Pg. 43)

• your mind for what it is -- nature's greatest gift. (Pg. 43)

• There is no such thing as objective reality or "the real world". There are no absolutes. The face of your greatest enemy might be the face of my finest friend. An event that appears to be a tragedy to one might reveal the seeds of unlimited opportunity to another. What really separates people who are habitually upbeat and optimistic from from those who are consistently miserable is how the circumstances of life are interpreted and processed. (Pg. 44)

• ...power of vision in the face of adversity. (Pg. 45)

• Whwn you form the habbit of searching for the posiyive in every circumstance, your life will move into its highest dimension. (Pg.46)

• Stop judging events as either positive or negative. Rather simply experience them, celebrate them and learn afrom them. Every event offers you a lesson. (Pg. 47)

• ..that you are more than the sum of your current circumstances. (Pg. 48)

• ...seeds of opportunity in my painful experience. (Pg. 48)

• The very fact that you have a desire or a dream means that you have the corresponding capacity to realize it. (Pg. 53)

• The secreat of happiness is simple: find out what you truly love to do and then direct all your energy in doing it. (Pg. 55)

• You will, however, have to start taking risk. Shake up your life a bit. Get rid of the cobwebs. Take the road less travelled. (Pg. 58)

• Most people live within the confines of there comfort zone. The best thing that you can do for yourself is regularly move beyond it. (Pg. 58)

Am I Happy?

This is the question which is haunting me these days.......
Sometimes I think that I have found some ways to keep myself happy. I can't name it what one calls key to happiness but I have discovered some principles following which keps me away from some wordly miseries.
Yet to find out much.
The first thing is: Jo bhi pyar se mila hum usi ke ho liye. Accept what is given to you in its very crude form. And believe me, it works! I don't know why but it works. Not in all times Im able to stick to that but most of the times I do that.
Second comes the well knowk phrase: Prepare for the best, hope for the worst.
I never fear to admit(or accept) what I am.
I have learnt to welcome my failures as I welcome my success. Actually this is a quote which I heard much before from my sis but I reallized its correctness recently.
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To Be Or Not To Be

Ever since Im here at IIT Kanpur, I have been doing things which I had never done in my life. Now Im always troubled when I think if this is right to do or not. Should I be the same what I was before or should I not be the same and change as I change?
I have started abusing, never serious like most of the guys here, diverted my mind from studies,

But the thing that troubles me most is that I have grudges against myself. I have grudges against Saurabh.
Saurabh you were one of the most decent guy in the college. Always studious. Never involved in any kind of damn activities. You spoke less. Always shy. But you have changed now. The very thing that constituted Saurabh is not there. May be the change is on positive side. You may justify that you ought to do these things to learn to live in this world. But the grudge is that you have changed.


Now I don't know that whether I be the same that I was or I should change? Im unable to decide which way to choose.This leaves me in a state sinosudally varrying between these two. And as usual, what I had expected from me, I end up putting myself in great mess. Always perplexed, oscillating between the two thoughts, unable to take the decision. Im not sure which of the above thought constitutes me and this leads me to the conclusion that surely this confusion constitutes me.

To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them? To die: to sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep;
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
For in that sleep of death what dreams may come
When we have shuffled off this mortal coil,
Must give us pause: there's the respect
That makes calmity of so long life;
    --- Hamlet, Shakespeare

About me......

Im not sure whether I think this or not.But there r some thngs that I feel like.

"Have to try accept the things you cannot change, and change the things you can. And I have been fighting, still am, but am getting so tired of it, of myself. Thinking just get over it, busy with a million things to make other people happy, smile and laugh, trying to forget about myself.
Fear for intimicy and rejection. I've wasted enough years, by fighting as well as running from it.
I will have to find a way to accept myself as I am, all of me. But I've known that for years. I know where it comes from, I know what to do about it, just not how to deal with it. "

this is the 1 i got from psycology community. lingerring to it 2 much these days. to know what ppl think about me from that thread.
IIT Kanpur has taught me somethings that were not known to me earlier. One of which is to have fun i.e. masti marna in Aman's language. Another thing is to hava my say in a matter, put forward my views on subjects of open discussions

Acquaintances / Relations

Acquaintances / Relations Unexplored

Sometimes I see life as some conditions being actualized, some events happening and some causal relations being instantiated, apart from a vast possibilities being unexplored, energies being untamed and thousands of meaningful connections and co-relations being left unattended, untouched and undiscovered. This post especially throws light on human relations, or you may say a small aspect of human relations, and that too the relations unexplored. I won’t say uninvented, but simply undiscovered, because discovery is about some already existing truth being revealed.

There are few people I see around, almost every now and then. To mention a few, a professor who taught me in first sem, my tutor, one of one of my batchmate, a senior of third year, one of my friend's classmate. But I have my own inhibitions in approaching them. And it sound silly to me to go and tell someone ‘I find you interesting’, its very teenagerish I believe. This is because as soon as you get in touch with a person, you might realize he/she is not the way you expected him/her to be. Then you can’t get back and say good-bye as you have already placed the person on high pedestal.



I am not the one who is very talkative kinds, who can participate in a discussion vociferously unless I feel people want me to speak. Yes I don’t’ initiate a conversation as I wonder if the person would be comfortable speaking to me. I always wait for others to invite me for speaking, asking for my opinion as I feel I should not impose myself and my being a potential friend on others. This is another reason why restrain myself of taking chances with people on my own initiative. I find this girl in girls’ hostel being laid with another ‘potential’ . Her body language is amazingly good, she is those serious kinds whom the opposite sex in general might not look forward to speak to. She has elegance, sophistication and attitude! Her confidence and sense of independence are her forte I guess. She is not like most of the girls who dont hav much of substance but do silly thing to attract attention. I like her attitude. She has some such qualities which I always appreciate in a woman. And then I mar a possibility of having a friendly relation with her just because of these two reasons, my being a bit reserved (and shy too), then other reason being my being quite cautious and sensitive towards the fact that I might be imposing self on others without their will. Fate is sealed!

I find those people appealing who have some substance to share with, apart from how they carry (conduct?) themselves in the society and their wholesome persona.There is a guy who i like much This was the fact that apart from his qualities, I found this guy full of air of superiority and almost living with this deep sense of being ‘different from others’, considering himself as superior. Yeah sometime there are people who always want to pose as if they are next to none and they don’t even bother to pay attention at those around them, extremely selfish and conceited! Then the idea of befriending him is pooh-poohed.

And then this professor whom I mentioned above. He is very academically oriented, pro students, believes in helping others and enthusiastically involves himself in any good cause and has the charisma to bring people together and work for a noble cause. I think he is a person whom one can learn a lot. Here the barrier is again external. What would others think if I make friends with him, as it is, I am a reserved person; my supervisor might not like the idea of my mixing a lot with him as he is not at all in good terms with this person. So sometimes this social factor comes in and dismantles the future castles of relationships in the air.

So these are some of the reasons because of which people are unable to shove themselves into possible relations. Bahhh…………so what is the tip for me, to be happy with my little world, enjoy the pleasures of exploring possibilities of these relationships within my mind or the maximum write them about like the way I did just now and at some point use these ‘characters’ to develop a good fiction in future!!! Kya baat hai!!! Kuch meetha ho jaye…..meetha na mile to have some chanas and sing along…


“hazaron khawahishen aisi ki har khawahish pe dam nikle,
bahut nikle mere armaan lekin phir bhi kam nikle”
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P.S.:- Not whole of vocabulary is mine but I think exactly the same.